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“I don’t want to do this any more,” said one of my colleagues, a woman in her 50s, as we left the building. “I just want to spend my days riding my horse. But my husband doesn’t earn enough to keep me in the custom I’m used to.”

“Nice. Have you told him so?” I grinned.

“But that’s how it used to be,” she said. “We were always told, ‘Find yourself a rich man who can keep you’. I didn’t want any of that, I wanted to be independent. But as you get older... I should have gone to the south of France and shown myself off on the beach when I still had my looks. Far too late now. My daughter’s the same. She used to go out with [international UK rugby player]. Very tall. He used to fill my kitchen. She used to say, ‘But mum, he’s boring’. I’d say, ‘I don’t care. Stay with him!’. But she didn’t. She’s too much like I used to be. Still, she’ll learn.”



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May. 24th, 2007 12:16 pm (UTC)
May. 24th, 2007 12:53 pm (UTC)
I agree!
May. 24th, 2007 12:17 pm (UTC)
May. 24th, 2007 12:53 pm (UTC)
No, I'm sorry, that's absolute rubbish.
May. 24th, 2007 12:20 pm (UTC)
May. 24th, 2007 12:54 pm (UTC)
If you say so.
May. 24th, 2007 01:07 pm (UTC)
Incidentally, I can't actually see these three comments at all, and am replying to them purely for rather limp comic effect. I think the LJ server is all better now, so if you want to repost, please do.
May. 24th, 2007 02:09 pm (UTC)
Oh I see! I thought you were being incredibly rude.

I said:

I know a lot of woman of think that way still, in this day and age. But I, for one, am happy to be a "kept" woman. It means I can visit people, paint, read books in the sun, dance through meadows etc without the stress of a career and the constant competitive nature of city folk.
The male suitor, however, would need to be pretty spectacular too though...I'm not settling for a dud.
May. 24th, 2007 12:36 pm (UTC)
I feel quite bad for men. You're expected to work to support somewhere between two and 10 (say) people for the rest of your lives, even if your wife works. There are very few women in the world who can keep *you* in the "custom you're used to," so there's not a lot of escape for most of you from that, if you want a relationship with anyone. And once you're in a relationship, you've got very little say about whether or not you want children (barring a vasectomy, which can be a relationship-ender anyway).
May. 24th, 2007 01:00 pm (UTC)
*chalks one up for "Women who CAN keep you in the custom you're used to, and who are not going to spring children on you. Ever."*

Unfortunately, there don't seem to be guys who actually want that.
May. 24th, 2007 01:01 pm (UTC)
Well, there probably are. But not the sort of chap I'd like to keep in the custom etc etc.
May. 24th, 2007 12:36 pm (UTC)
Hey, what's up with all the other comments here? They look blank to me.
May. 24th, 2007 12:40 pm (UTC)
They are clearly speechless.
May. 24th, 2007 12:45 pm (UTC)
There's pros and cons to it all (the being a woman or being a man thing). My body (yes, that old thing) means I never have to open a door for myself (provided there's a bloke about), however it also means I get shrieked at whenever I walk down the street unless I wear baggy jumpers and/or keep my hand locked firmly in Jon's (even this is sometimes not enough of a deterrent).

On the subject of supporting the other, I'd love to do this for Jon, but the favour will need reciprocating when I have to sprog.
May. 24th, 2007 01:02 pm (UTC)
means I never have to open a door for myself

ZOMG really? I'm assuming you don't work in London, then?
May. 24th, 2007 12:58 pm (UTC)
Jenny just keeps buying lottery tickets in the vain hope that she'll never have to broach this subject with me, bless her.
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May. 24th, 2007 01:12 pm (UTC)
> women are much more likely to be ill or disabled in old age and so men are perhaps more likely to be carers at that time

Statistically we're more likely to be dead by that point, mainly so that we can shirk caring duties.

May. 24th, 2007 10:09 pm (UTC)
And women are much more likely to be ill or disabled in old age

Really? I thought it'd be the other way around.
May. 24th, 2007 01:41 pm (UTC)
when it says 'used to fill my kitchen', what is meant by that?
May. 24th, 2007 01:45 pm (UTC)
I know it sounds like unintentional filth, but she just meant that he was a very tall man in a very small kitchen.
May. 24th, 2007 01:51 pm (UTC)
with a very long, ah nevermind!
May. 24th, 2007 02:14 pm (UTC)
... work surface?
May. 24th, 2007 02:44 pm (UTC)
yes you dirty swine!
May. 25th, 2007 04:07 pm (UTC)
Rich brings you nothing except bitterness if you don't lurve yer man. You sit there wondering what intelligent pieces of work you could be missing.

And incidentally - that orange and black pic looks like it could be the motto of Fisters Fvckers UK. What is it?
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